Shhh…. I have a secret

I am in the midst of a quandary.

My sister-in-law needs to move. Why is this a quandary? Simple, she is in her 70’s and has only social security for income.

She is basically, well, helpless, for want of a better word.

Either her husband or dad took care of everything. Both have passed. For the last 9 years, my husband and I have basically taken that spot.

We have helped her in any way that we could. But our resources are finite. We are also helping to support our children who have issues of their own. I am writing my dissertation and working full-time.

Husband is retired, but his health…. well he isn’t 40 any more.

The current problem really started about 9 years ago when dad died.

It was very unexpected. He was very independent. Loved to travel. Literally would wake up in the morning and decide to drive across the country to see a friend or relative and just…. leave. Often, it was to turn around and come back after being there overnight.

It was on his way back from one of these trips that he died. He had stopped in a rest area and was found in the bathroom on the floor. He apparently had an aneurysm that proved instantly fatal. We think that it was due to the altitude that caused it to come on so fast. But we will really never know.

After his death, one of his children was made executor of his will, and he gutted the family inheritance. Sis had a house that Dad bought for her so she would always have a place to live. Brother sold it out from under her. She ended up in a trailer park in an older trailer.

It was in a nice park and was ok to begin with. However, it came under new management, and it went to hell in a handbasket. Being an HOA, they jacked up the fees, lessened the services, and hired horrible people to manage.

The new manager’s first goal was to eliminate anyone over 50. They wanted families with kids to move in. So, they started to make life …… unpleasant for everyone else.

Now, the brother also took everybody else inheritance and kept it for themselves. He lives in another state rather than the state Dad died in. We went to court and were granted a change in executor and a return of all assets. However, due to him living in another state, we would have had to hire lawyers from both states to handle and enforce the ruling, and there was no guarantee that we would see anything come of it anyway.

So the $400,000 that was supposed to be split 5 ways, it was split one. Sure, they all got about $10,000, give or take, not the amount that should have been shared.

Why does this matter?

Sis moved. She got a reasonably good price for her trailer. BUT, and this is a big one, she got caught in basically a ‘prince from Nigeria’ scheme. Only this was a supposed ‘upper-rank military soldier’ that was stationed abroad (unknown where due to the security clearance) that ran missions that left him out of contact for days, but the results of which ended up on the internet news later.

Right.

I told her that it sounded like the ‘prince’ scheme and she should not send any money for any reason. She assured me that he never asked for any and she knew better.

Right.

Long story short and $10,000 later….

Well, you get the idea.

She even took a loan out on the car she had just refinanced.

Now, the trailer that she bought is falling apart. I mean, it’s literally falling apart. We need to get her out of there, but have no where for her to go!

We don’t have the room. Plus she has lived with us before and we Just. Can’t. Do. It. Again.

Now,, we are facing the same problem that many seniors are facing: needing somewhere to go but not having the resources to go anywhere.

We need to move her immediately.

I don’t know what to do.